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Thursday, June 15, 2006
To Blog or Not to Blog
I have thought many times about getting rid of my blog. I think a lot of us have either wanted to quit or start over with a more anonymous profile. If I knew then what I know now, I would have done so many things differently with this blog. Like not tell certain people about it. I still go back and forth about telling my parents about my blog, but I don't because know I would censor myself even more than I already do. This post and this post are great thoughts on some reasons why blogging can suck, and can safely say I have felt some of their feelings. There are so many times that I just can't come up with anything good to write about, or I've been on the computer all day at work, and I just can't bear to sit in front of the computer at home, too. I really love reading blogs, but sometimes the commenting seems like work, even though I really want to comment. I just don't always have time to be as thorough as I would like. Thoughts? Feelings? Comments (hee hee, yes that was supposed to be funny)?


Blogger Lori said...

I know how you feel. I told a couple family members about it early on (although I think they don't read anyway). But then told at least the older kids and Kim. I mean, I don't want it to be a xx-person-bashing forum, but there are some things I'd like to write about at time that I'd rather they not read, ya know.

Blogger Football Widow said...

I know what you mean. The only people in my family who know are my sister and husband. But I still feel like I have to be careful what I say because you just never know who is reading. And yes, at times it can feel like work.

But on the other hand I still enjoy reading everyone's stuff and I wouldn't trade some of the friends I've made through blogging.

It's a toss up. I don't think that taking a break would be the end of the world, you know?

Blogger Lazy Lightning said...

I have told everyone I know about my blog, and only one or two of them actually read it. Sometimes it drives me nuts that my mom DOESN'T read it, because she knows so much less about what's going on with me (I have to basically repeat whatever I wrote in my blog, in an email to her).

When I don't feel like writing, I just don't. Usually, I do feel like it again a few days later. The longest I've gone is probably a week or 10 days without a post, in about 1.5 years!

Blogger aka_Meritt said...

EVERYONE goes through this. The only thing I ask is please don't make a long whiney "goodbye" post and whine for comments begging to please not go... good luck... blah blah


and then come back in 3 days and want to post again. LOL.

I've stopped posting a couple times.... I didn't make an issue out of it. Just say "I have nothing to say this week" and just leave it at that.

Blogging almost always comes back though.... it's a great outlet and it gets into your blood. It's nice to have a place to come 'when you feel like it'.

Blogger The Kept Woman said...

Am there frequently.

The best thing I can say is do what you feel will make you happiest.

I agree with Merrit...I swear I'm done and then someone in my house does something stupid I have to write about...

Yeah, alllllll that stuff you just said, I feel the SAME way. My only saving grace is that my family does not know about my blog.

ooh ooh, AND, I am the WORST comment-er-er. I like to read, but I agree, the commenting CAN feel like work sometimes...but shhhh. Don't tell anyone I said that. I'm not scared that you won't blog anymore, because I know how to find you! Muahahahahahah!

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I hear ya loud & so damn clear, although I haven't told my parents or any family about it. My issues are with insecurities that people hate my blog, think it's lame and will never return if they happen upon it in the first place. I considered deleting my blog last week. AGH. So much work and pressure.

My mom is visiting this weekend-- let's see if I can hide my blog addiction from her.

NapQueen-- I heart your blog and your comments, but don't feel pressured PLEASE to comment. I will understand. Deal?

Blogger Kami said...

Keep this one, and start a secret one!

I have felt the way you feel several times. However, I don't have a written diary type thing and sometimes I just gotta vent. I also like to get other people's perspective on some stuff too. I can't always be objective about my own life and this helps.

However, when it starts to feel like a job, then perhaps it is time to take a step back. I personally love your blog, but this has to be for you, not us.

Blogger Carrie said...

I hear you loud and clear. sometimes I wish I hadn't given my blog to every single person I know, except for the office folk, but you don't always know who is reading. There are times I don't have anything to say so I don't. I do like being able to have communication with people about things, especially when I'm at work and I'm captivated by reading what other peoples lives are like. At the end of the day, it's up to you what you want to do. :)

Anonymous Izzy said...

I have to say, the one thing I never regretted was not telling my family about my blog. But I also didn't mention it to my best friend and now I feel really bad because HOW can I tell her after 8 months? She'll hate me. I just wanted some anonymity and freedom and I didn't think I could have it if anyone knew about it *sigh*

Thanks for the linkage. I appreciate it :)

PS: I love your name and tagline. I'm all about the naps. I actually just woke up from one. And I'm still tired. Go figure...

Blogger Sheri & SuZan said...

I know I start feeling this way...and you see what I'm doing? Everyone here has said what I feel so why do I feel the need to leave a comment.

Can't escape! (I think I'm going through the same feelings).

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sometimes I don't feel like it either and that's when I go digging through my drafts and do some of those for awhile. Sometimes I just won't blog about recent stuff for a day or two.

I've told my family about it but (lucky for me) they aren't very internet saavy. My Dad thinks every website has a virus on it and my Mom can't figure out how to click on the link I sent her. My Uncle and Aunt however read and tell everyone else what I've said. But if you know me then you know I really don't care.

I know a lot of people read and not comment on my blog. That's fine. It doesn't bother me. I'm not one of those who just has to have commenters or I don't feel loved. My blog is like my home...come over, lounge around, dig through my refrigerator and leave at your convenience.

Blogger suburban mom said...

I wish I had more anonyminity in my blog. No name, etc.

Those posts were interesting...but fortunately I know nothing about cliques...which is good since I'm miss sorority and I would hate to feel left out! ;)

Blogger TBG said...

I feel the same way becuase I know that the ex inlaws have it but do they read is another whole thing!

I say just post what you want and if people dont like it they dont have to read!

If you do move please let me know!

Anonymous Rob said...

I have changed my blog numerous times. First, too many people knew about it and I couldn't be honest with my stuff..I changed it. Then I googled myself with my new name and there I was again. So I moved to wordpress where you have the option to stay clear of search engines. And I don't tell anyone about it other than my closest...whoever else reads it, I don't care. I don't want to be careful about what I say..my husband doesn't even know my knew one which might be obvious with some of the things I write. :)

Blogger pack of 2 said...

blogs are a lot of work. We just post when we feel like it. Sometimes that can be over a week...do what you need to but we will keep checking in:)


Blogger Lisa said...

I know what you mean. I told a few people about my blog. My mom knows I have one and doesn't even know what one is. But what I write at times gets back to her. THen she's on the phone with me telling me how someone's feelings were hurt or how I shouldn't talk about my son or include his photo because some child molester is going to hunt me down and take my child... So yeah, that shit gets old...

Blogger Mama C said...

I've felt like that too. I try to comment but it is hard when you sit in front of a computer all day and that is really the last thing you want to do when you get home.

Do what you feel is right. I try to visit and comment at everyone's when I can.

Blogger Lucky Lum said...

Oh yes, I think we've all had these feelings.
Don't make your decisions for anybody else but you. that's my best advice.

Blogger Fightin' Mad Mary said...

I'm always afraid that I'll run out of stuff to blog and then just when I least expect it - something really "blog worthy" happens and I rant on and on...

and sometimes I'll go places or try new things just in case I might want to blog about it, so in a way I do more because of the blog.
(it's still really hard for me NOT to talk about work...but I don't want to get fired)

Anonymous isabel said...

I love my blog and often want to tell my friends and/or family about it. But then I remember that if I tell them about my blog, I can NO LONGER BLOG ABOUT WHY I HATE THEM! So I've never told them. Phew.

Glad you are still blogging. You must never quit or I will miss you.

(Babboo can now fit into the clothes you sent him. I washed them all yesterday, so they are ready. I promise to send you pictures!)

Blogger liberalbanana said...

Sorry I'm late to comment on this post - gah! The POLITICS!!!!!! :)

I know exactly what you mean. Blogs are work. I guess they don't have to be, but they are. Sometimes I feel like there are so many cool writers out there that I could just explode. "I'll never get to them all!" I think. But you do what you can. Don't stress over it. These days, if I don't have time to write or don't have anything to say, I don't. And I get to reading other people's blogs as soon as I have time to. A late comment is better than no comment, right? Right. (I hope.)

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